Today’s Purpose

                                                                           Today, what is your purpose?

Every evening, when I see my children after school I asked them the same type of questions, in no particular order:   “What was the best part of the day?”, “Who made you laugh?”, “Who did something kind?” and “What did you do to help others?”

And just recently; my son (almost 8) asked me, “Mom, what was the best part of your day?” “What did you do to help someone?” So, I gave it a moment’s thought and responded.

Well Bud, actually – the best part of my day was before a meeting started when I was listening to another woman talk about her Mom.  My co-worker was explaining a need for time off because her mom was sick and she wanted to be by her side and help take care of her.  I could relate to the woman because Grammie was sick last year and I knew how important time was to show love and support to someone in need.  I shared empathy with the woman by realizing what she was going through was not easy and that she was in a place where she could use support.  So, at that time I think I also helped her…I told her some of the best advice I received when I was taking care of my mom was to understand emotions are going to come, be gentle with yourself, be ok where you are, and take things one day at a time.  My co-worker looked me in the eyes and smiled… touched my arm and said thank you.  That reassured me, my compassion & empathy was helpful.

After sharing that time with my Son, I realized further – the two minute conversation with my co-worker before our meeting started had nothing to do with my ‘job’.  It had nothing to do with the reason I wake up and go to work but when I was asked; it was the best part of my day.  So, I pondered the scenario further… Why?  Why was that the best part of my day?

It did not take me long to realize the answer to that question… because it was Real.  It was not superficial and it did not lack meaning.  It was authentic, honest, kind, and human – totally based from the heart.  It made me feel my purpose for the day was to go to work and help support someone else.

What is purpose?

Purpose – as I would define it is something you achieve when you give beyond yourself, when you do something for someone else – that is not just about you and improves the greater good.

Of course you could come up with numerous definitions for purpose but I feel in 2017 we have birthed a new generation and slowly evolved as a society that is more and more in touch with their need for purpose.  Asking, “what is my purpose” and “how do I achieve purpose”?  After all, companies around the globe are struggling to find the magic key which attracts and retains top talent because millennials are searching for purpose.

Finding purpose

Your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your authentic self are all factors required to finding your purpose. Being authentically you means being truthful and honest with yourself first and foremost and then demonstrating what makes you spark, what makes you fully-alive, and what you cannot live without.  In short:

  • Start with Self-awareness: be able to reflect upon your thoughts, how you feel and how you act.
  • Recognize your strengths and what you value: what comes natural, what are you best at?
  • Apply your strengths and values to whatever it is you ‘do’.
    • Consider your ‘job’, Relationships, and the way you perceive your life

Where is your focus?

Each evening I deliberately ask my children the same type of questions for many reasons.  They are all focused on optimism, gratitude, or service.  The questions reveal great things about the day but more importantly emphasize behaviors of an excellent human being.  When you repeatedly focus on things to be happy about, thankful for or ways to be of service; you train your brain to look for more of the same.

Happiness is developed by realizing the best of any situation.

  “What was the best part of your day?”

Laughter is the easiest way to break down barriers, and make light-hearted connections.

“Who made you laugh?”

Showing empathy, compassion, or kindness builds a trusting environment

 And a world we would prefer to live in.

 “Who did something kind?”

Beyond showing up or completing the tasks –

What did you do to help others?

Today, what was your purpose?

Mindful Leadership

Mindful Leadership:

Studies Show the Regular Practice of Being Mindful Drives Success; is it Right for You?

Angela Conrad

Fall 2013 ©

Abstract

This research study has examined the effects of incorporating a regular mindfulness practice into ones daily life and the result of success that has followed.  To clarify, a mindfulness practice is something most are probably already familiar with and will be further defined as deliberately focusing on personal thought and reflecting upon personal emotions.  What does it mean to be mindful?  In short, it means to be aware of one self, and aware of ones thoughts.  How does this correlate to success in one’s personal and professional life?  I have discovered through this research study that many greats have demonstrated the regular practice of being mindful.  Whether their practice has been called meditation, yoga, centering, or just some simple techniques during physical fitness or while writing/journaling, the results have all been the same, clarity that has created the pristine space for success.  This topic is significant because, “The movement to develop mindful leaders in business is at the Tipping Point, as interest from corporations, educational institutions and the media continues to grow.” (George, 2013).

Mindful Leadership:

Studies Show the Regular Practice of Being Mindful Drives Success; is it Right for You?

“What do Steve Jobs, Ray Dalio, Bill George, Marc Beinoff and Phil Jackson have in common?  They are visionaries, have been known to lead and inspire teams, and have achieved significant success in their professional lives.  They have one more thing in common – meditation.” (Singhal, N., Vakil, S. 2012)  Could the regular practice of being mindful in such methods as mediation drive such astonishing success in an individual’s daily life?  What if it could?  Would it change your daily habits?  Or maybe perfect your existing practices?  As a trained and certified Yoga Instructor and practitioner of meditation I can share on behalf of my own experience that the regular practice of becoming mindful is the quickest and most precise method of drawing clarity to my own mind, my thoughts, my decisions and therefore the performance of my life.

Let us explore; what is mindfulness or the practice of being mindful?  Do you know the feeling you experience when you first wake in the morning; you are barely awake, you are still, you are aware yet you are at rest or shall I say in a state of relaxing.  Your body is calm and your first thoughts begin for the day.  Well, let me take this back just briefly to the state of lying calm and being aware – this is a mindful state.  Before a stream of thoughts take over and flood your  mind with chaos or emotion such as excitement, worry, anxiety.  There is a space of awareness upon stillness maybe even just a simple awareness upon your breath.  The recognition of how you feel as you lay comfortable and still, the recognition of thoughts as they arise, the ability to dismiss them and return to the focus of your breath.  This is the practice of being mindful.  It seems simple but many have discovered the ‘practice’ of a mindfulness practice, takes practice!  This sense of calm delivers peace throughout the mind and body and dismisses the presence of worry or anxiety.  This place of stillness in the mind and body welcomes clarity and an inner focus that drives toward success.  The more frequently this place is explored, the more familiar it becomes and the easier it is to find.  No matter what you are doing and no matter what you need to accomplish you begin to realize you have the ability to center yourself even if just briefly before you being your tasks.  The offering this practice brings is a pristine space, where clarity, certainty, and the life force of intuition and inner knowing are birthed and are able to drive the practitioner toward success.

Studies have shown many benefits of practicing mindfulness.  Some of which are:

  • Improved mental focus and reduced mind wandering
  • Extension to attention on a single task
  • Awareness of emotion and ability to control emotions
  • Lifting one self from constant stream of  negative self-talk “voice in the head”
  • Improved sleep
  • Improved immunity
  • Greater clarity
  • Reduction of cognitive decline
  • Overall greater peace

Truly, this is just a short list to provide examples of some of the benefits of a mindfulness practice. Each bullet point on the list has obvious benefits toward an individual’s overall performance both personally and professionally.  Each point presented, on it’s own would improve a person’s mood, cognitive stability, and result in greater performance.  The truth is a routine mindfulness practice will deliver all these benefits and then some!

Now, what are some additional ways of being mindful?  Any individual activity such as Yoga, Jogging, Walking, Lap Swimming or simply house cleaning can offer the chance to practice being mindful.  The idea is to focus your thoughts on the feeling of the physical self, tune into the small details such as shifting your weight, the sensations of the body as you shift your balance, the compensation of your muscles or the use of your fingers and toes during normal activities such as reaching or stepping.  The small details teach our mind to fine tune our awareness.  Once someone is a seasoned practitioner they may find themselves ready to develop a more typical mindfulness practice such as meditation.  However, upon introduction to a mindfulness practice I would not focus directly toward meditation because the word itself seems to have some heavy implication toward religion or a “woo-woo” way of life.  This interpretation of the word meditation is derived from those whom have no real understanding of it’s true meaning or it’s true value in their personal lives or the workplace or even our world for that matter.

“Mindfulness is not a new idea.  Forty years ago Kabat-Zinn founded the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at the University of Massachusetts to treat chronically ill patients.  This sparked interest in the medical field, where mindfulness began to be used and applied to both healthy and unhealthy people.” (Garms, 2013).  Today, there are numerous companies, corporations, educational institutions, teams and individuals who practice being mindful on a regular basis to stay focused upon their desired goals and drive success.  As mentioned at the opening of this research paper such greats as Phil Jackson used the regular practice of Yoga and Meditation to train the Chicago Bulls as well as the Los Angeles Lakers to multiple championships based upon the foundational principles of the practice.  The previous Vice President of General Mills, Inc. a Fortune 200 company, Janice L. Marturano left her job after building a successful career to open The Institute for Mindful Leadership.  The Institute which Janice designed and developed from the ground up came to be based upon her own rewarding experience with mediation and mindfulness practice.  She concluded if such techniques worked for her to achieve clarity, peace of mind, greater focus and success in her personal and professional life; why not offer the basis of this education to leaders around the world.  Janice has multiple workshop offerings and retreats focused around improving the quality of performance of anyone’s life.  Janice describes mindfulness as, “paying attention on purpose, non-judgmentally, in the present moment.” (Marturano, 2011).  Releasing judgment is a foundational principle in the practice of being mindful.  When anyone, much less a leader understands the value of releasing judgment both upon themselves and another person they begin to recognize acceptance.  People often do not realize the importance of releasing judgment of themselves.  When you consider the natural tendency for your mind to focus negatively on the things you are not so great at, the thoughts tend to build momentum and before you know it your focus in greatly aligned with the attributes in which you do not excel.  Rather, than catching this tendency as soon as it starts and realizing it is negative self-talk and you have a choice to turn it off or at least change the mental subject to something that you are good at.  When you practice this awareness more and more frequently, you soon discover that you are quicker to turn off the negative and turn on the positive which then becomes fuel toward your greatness and therefore your success.  This again, is just one of the simple techniques in mindfulness.  Achieving clarity, greater focus and streaming positive energy that will transform your life and enhance success.  Another principle that can easily be adapted into one’s life to further their development of being mindful is recognizing there is space in between your thoughts.  Sure you are aware of a thought that pops into your head but have you ever considered breathing rather than responding to that thought with another thought?  Here is an idea for a simple practice:  The next time your phone rings, recognize it has rang, take a deep breath, allow it to ring a second time, breath again and now set an intention before you answer the phone.  The intention can be something simple such as, “I will remain calm through this entire phone call no matter who is on the line.”  Answer the call, carry on and when done, evaluate how that simple practice made you feel.  You practiced being mindful by allowing space in between the recognition of a phone ringing and your reaction to it.  In addition, you further explored the experience by setting an intention to practice having choice during any routine task.  These simple ideas of creating space are principles of mindfulness and will allow the practitioner greater clarity, focus and translation of pure performance to any task.  When operating at such a place of peace one is able to receive authentic power and ultimately that translates into success.

Having awareness of our thoughts and emotions both our personal and professional lives can truly transform our world.  Imagine a world where all schools and then businesses believed in the practice of centering yourself and finding true clarity before they undertook any activity or meeting.  Or more importantly before creating a potentially damaging reaction to another person whether that be a client, colleague or a customer.  Bruce D. Schneider, is the founder and CEO of iPEC Coaching, one of the world’s most highly regarded coach training and leadership development organizations.  Schneider teaches “Interpersonal Effectiveness (I.E.) equals Emotional Intelligence (E.I.)”.  When any one is able to bring awareness to your emotions, recognize how you feel, create space and then choosing an appropriate reaction to your feelings based upon your environment and the person(s) you are communicating with.  You are far more likely to have made a reasonable, responsible and pure decision based upon controlling yourself which again drives toward success.  The payoffs of learning to be mindful are endless.  Businesses and Employees alike are in favor for the long list of benefits that result in a mindfulness practice.  In communication efforts, relationship and team building as well as improved health and well-being, it is clear the benefits of mindfulness practice are nearly endless.  Businesses can reap the benefits of exploring these benefits and creating worthwhile training programs or course offerings within their companies.  The foundational principles are easy to translate and explore so there is a sure understanding no matter how diverse the audience.  The topic resonates with the souls of many because it delivers a pure sense of calm and peace which brings about a freeing sense of surrender.  To dismiss negative self-talk, negative emotions, worry/anxiety and bring a focus upon positive energies that fuel motivation, innovation and peace sure sounds good to me.

The next time you find yourself aware of your thoughts – stay there a moment, deliberately release any judgment and just say Aha – my thoughts.  Recognize if the thought was negative and choose to change the thought to positive.  Allow your mind to compliment your talents and good traits more often.  Fill yourself with positive energy as you increase this practice throughout your days.  In the morning ‘just-be-still’ and bask in the feeling of peace, begin to recognize that the feeling of peace is with you before your mind fills with chaotic thoughts.  Before you begin a meeting or walk into a room full of people, take a moment to breathe and think of an intention to set for the task at hand.  All of these suggestions will develop your practice toward greater mindfulness, a sense of being present in all that you do.  When you have built this practice it will seem natural for you to perform the deep breath for clarity before you perform your work.  You will have opened your mind allowing for space in between thoughts.  When there is space in the mind, rather than a stream of thoughts you allow room for your intuition or life force to enter and from there you are running on the most efficient fuel there is. Your energy and your power will be coming from the most authentic source and you can take it from the experts, if you routinely perform such a practice, success is sure to follow.

References

Garms, E.T. (2013).  Practicing Mindful Leadership.  T+D Magazine

George, B.  (2013).  Resilience Through Mindful Leadership.   Huff Post: The Third Metric

LaBarre, P. (2011).  Developing Mindful Leaders.  Harvard Business Review

Marturano, J.L. (2011).  Institute for Mindful Leadership.  Finding the Space to Lead.

Schneider, B. D. (2008). Energy Leadership. Transforming Your Workplace and Your Life from

the Core, 180-181.

Singhal, N., Vakil, S. (2012).  Meditation May Be the Key to Business Leadership.  The Harbus

Online.  The student news organization of the Harvard Business School since 1937.

 

This is about You…

You are Valued.
You are Loved.
I care because I am connected to you.
I want you to be your best so together we are our best.
You mean the world to me.

You have qualities about you that I cannot live without
Your best qualities are those that shine when you are happy and loved.
You radiate excellence when you know someone loves you.
You run on a high with energy that seems to be limitless.
You feel invincible and alive when you truly know your heart beats for someone.

Love this about you
Love You

Give it to others:
as I give it to you
I love you and I know you are valuable.
You mean the world to me.

Now read it to yourself.

xoxo, Angela Dina

Today’s two Minute Practice: Build a Resilient Mind

Mindfulness, it is growing in media popularity as a topic that is actually ancient but sort of organically resurfacing to solve today’s world problems. Funny how all the classics find their way back in a sort-of rebirth, renewal, or sometimes as an “I told ya so!”

Today’s Practice: Release judgment and just “BE”.
We are Human Beings. I was always taught the easiest way to recognize a Verb (an action word), is to see the ending “ing”. This explains why we are defined as Human “Beings” because we are pretty much always in action. Our Minds are “Being” all day, every day, which is one of the main reasons we need sleep.
So, to intently practice stillness means you develop an ability to just “Be”. Rather than allowing the mind to continue on the stream of nonstop thoughts we carve out time to create space from the nonstop, to the present moment.

WHY? The space that is created when we slow down or stop thought during a mindfulness practice allows us to build resilience and create a stronger healthier mind.
HOW? By recognizing the breath, we dismiss all other thoughts, invite an openness which invites a sense of centering and the feeling of clarity. Try breathing, with a nonjudgmental focus on only your breath, for 10 inhale & exhales. (If thoughts arise, return to your breath).
WHAT? What did you experience? What did you feel? Remaining mindful usually brings about an awareness that in the moment, you are present, alive, here, and that one breath at a time you are “ok”.
WHO? Who are you again? You are a Human “Being”. You are not your thoughts, you are not your troubles, you are not your worries, you are not your faults, you are not your wins, you are not your past, you are not your parents, etc… When “Being”, try on a more frequent basis to bring the “BE” into “Being”; the “Be” is the stillness, the presence, the awareness.
WHERE? Where does that get you? By Being Present more frequently, in the moment of your Being, you realize there is always only this moment, there is nothing to worry about because in this moment I am Good, I’m Okay, I just AM.
WHEN? When life brings you trauma, drama, or issues you would define as problems (as it always does). You will be able to return to your awareness of the present moment, focus on your breath and realize – I have acceptance for this moment, it too shall pass. When I am practicing mindfulness, I am building resilience. I do not crumble or falter or believe that hard times will ruin me; I learn they are a moment, just like all the other moments I have sat with. When I find acceptance with the present moment, I eliminate suffering and rather than being able to bounce back, I feel like I can bounce forward.

Wishing you the Best,
Angela Dina

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The Confidence an Executive Needs for True Excellence

Love Your Life: Business and Life Coaching

Angela Dina Conrad

Just a couple paragraphs from my desk today:
Confidence: full trust, belief, certitude, assurance in oneself.

No matter what level your position is within a company you need to have confidence. Self-confidence is a trait and a learned skill that sets apart the player from the champion.
When an individual takes on a leadership level, within any organization they usually take on a role that requires extreme self-confidence.
Companies often forget about the human skills that are needed in such positions because they focus almost entirely on technical skills or past roles that qualify the person to fulfill the executive level position. Truth is a person who takes on an executive role, especially in a large company, needs to understand the way they are viewed by everyone in that company from that point forward. It comes with great courage and therefore confidence to take on a role where people know you and you do not necessarily know them.

Confidence is required: to meet your people, to learn who they are, and to show you care. Confidence is required: to address other by their name, to show concern for their personal development, and to assure both parties are aligned with the same goal. Confidence is required to act as a grounded human rather than to act as your title.
The following is developed when an employee is compassionately engaged by an executive:
1. Connection – We are all on the same page and I share this common goal with you. (Usually associated with the Business Strategy)
2. Builds respect and trust, empowers individuals.
3. Inspires motivation to accomplish work of any kind, fulfills autonomy.
4. Eliminates any negative momentum that can be built by gossip. Creates Positive Buzz!
5. Produces shared happiness and cultivates an excellent workplace culture, provides purpose.

You may be in an advanced role, supporting higher levels of business; but your True Excellence shows when those below you, love you.

No Matter Your Job, Be Your Best!
Angela Dina

original post 2017